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Dec. 5th, 2005 @ 04:40 pm REAL responsibility.
How I feel: contentcontent
Current Sounds: Office Chatter
I posted this on my public LJ - but you know - I think some people here need to read this as well.

Totally True so pass on
A lot has been said about how to prevent rape.
Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. Women shouldn't have long hair and women shouldn't wear short skirts. Women shouldn't leave drinks unattended. Fuck, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all.

Instead of that bullshit, how about:

if a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
if a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
if a woman is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
if a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
if a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape her.
if a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
if a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
if a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.
if a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.
if a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
if your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.
if your step-daughter is watching tv, don't rape her.
if you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.
if your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.
if your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
if your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and tell the guy he's a rapist.

tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it's not okay to rape someone.
don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x.
don't imply that it's in any way her fault.
don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl.
don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.

*If you agree, repost it. It's that important.

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In a "blame the victim" society, it's time to start assigning responsibility to the RIGHT PEOPLE.
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Sep. 29th, 2005 @ 05:53 pm Password Protection
How I feel: disappointeddisappointed
Current Sounds: Interpol - Evil
I didn't want to do this.

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Sep. 27th, 2005 @ 02:05 pm Examination of Relationships.
How I feel: hungryhungry
Friendship.
Love.
Relationships.

These are the most complex things there are.

D called me, and he got an earful. tapped the dam with a hesitant hammer and BAM! A flood. Guess if you don't want that, you should take "I'm Fine." as an answer.

I have a very short list of demands in my relationships. But they are at a high standard, if you ask me.

1. Respect. Respect who I am, the decisions I make, who I affiliate with, what I have to say. NEVER BELITTLE OR TALK DOWN TO ME.
2. Appriciation. Appriciate the fact that I dropped everything to meet your needs, that I set my own needs aside to hear you, that I am always trying my best, even when I screw up.
3. Honesty. Never lie to me. All truths come out in the end, along a long enough timeline. Do not treat me as if I am too weak to handle the truth, or that I am so unforgiving as to not get over a truth.
4. Loyalty. Be there for me at the same level I am there for you. Synonomous with Equality, in a way.
5. Patience. Appriciate what I have to give, be patient if you want more, realize that I make mistakes as well, and be forgiving with that.

These are the things I demand of myself in friendships. These are the things I strive for (and more) and work to be as a friend. I expect no less from my relationships. Everybody makes mistakes, and holding yourself to a higher principal means you fall a lot more often.

I appriciate my friends to a great deal. They satiate me with what they're willing/able to give. I do not ask them for more, because I know that they give me what they can.
I do not crave more friends.
I do not crave more relationships of any means, including a boyfriend.

I have even become satisfied with having a life without having a relationship with Nicholas (for the most part, we all relapse in some things) and why?
because I appriciate what I have. Who I have. And they give me more than I need.

I feel as if, when I am being taken for granted, that what i have to give isn't enough. Like I'm holding back, like I am not meeting my end of the deal.
And such an accusation - up front or implied, makes me very mad.

My first impulse, to be honest, is to say "fuck off" and sever the relationship. If what I have to give isn't good enough for you, then I want nothing to do with you.
But, I am forgiving, and give the benefit of the doubt to people. So, talk it out until it's worked out. But if it's ignored, it'll grow and infect. that is the way I work.

There are pros, there are cons, what can I say? I am patient, but only so much so, and I have a temper on me.

That and I'm sick and unable to eat.
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Aug. 25th, 2005 @ 11:38 am Sex Abuse Survivor Bar
How I feel: determineddetermined
OKAY trying this one more time... lol bear with me, people.

so this is the bar:

      
Being a sex abuse survivor is NOT shameful!


And the code to place it in your userinfo (be sure to include every single thing!)




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Jul. 9th, 2005 @ 04:59 pm MY CAT!! HAHAHAA
How I feel: amusedamused
Current Sounds: Rorschach Test - Slave
I will post this because after seeing this picture I laughed so fucking hard... hahahahaa

You scored as Pissed at the World Cat. And here we have the next serial killer. Try having some cotton candy, it'll make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, Psycho.

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